I Am My Hair: A Gaga Journey to Understanding the Mosaic of Gender Identity
“I just wanna be myself,
and I want you to love me for who I am
I just wanna be myself,
and I want you to know
I am my hair”
My hair has always been somewhat of a defining feature and throughout my life I have experimented with many different styles, before about 10 years ago allowing it to grow into a long flowing mane. As a gender fluid person, my hair had become a significant part of my identity, a symbol of my gender expression. In more ways than one, I had become an embodiment of Lady Gaga’s anthem “Hair.”
However, last week I underwent a dramatic change in my hair related journey of self-discovery. The decision to cut it all off was a choice that initially filled me with both excitement and trepidation. Letting go of something that held such meaning for me was not easy. It forced me to confront deeply ingrained societal norms and expectations surrounding gender presentation. But in doing so, I feel I have discovered a new found sense of freedom and authenticity.
In our society, the concept of gender has long been portrayed as a binary: male or female. However, for me at least, the truth is far more complex and fascinating. For example, the relationship between hair and gender identity serves as a powerful lens through which we can explore the complexities of human expression. From ancient civilisations to modern-day culture, hair has been intertwined with notions of gender, reflecting and shaping societal expectations. However, as we progress towards greater inclusivity and acceptance, it becomes increasingly evident that we need to move away from fixed gender identities and embrace the fluidity of human expression.
Throughout history, hair has been laden with symbolic meaning, often serving as a visual cue for gender identity. Long, flowing locks have traditionally been associated with femininity, while short, cropped styles have been deemed masculine. These associations, deeply ingrained in cultural norms, have reinforced rigid gender binaries, limiting the spectrum of acceptable expressions.
Despite these general trends, the relationship between hair and gender identity varies significantly across cultures and time periods. In ancient Egypt, both men and women adorned themselves with elaborate hairstyles, blurring the lines between masculine and feminine aesthetics. Similarly, in certain Native American cultures, long hair symbolised spiritual strength and connection to nature, transcending traditional gender norms.
As societies progress, so too do our attitudes towards gender expression. In the 20th and 21st centuries, we've witnessed a gradual shift away from rigid gender expectations regarding hair. Movements advocating for gender equality and LGBTQ+ rights have paved the way for greater acceptance of diverse expressions of gender identity, including through hair styling. Today, individuals feel empowered to express their gender in ways that challenge traditional norms. Yet, somehow binary thinking still prevails. Considering myself and how my own long flowing locks became such a significant expression of my own gender, despite my views around the absurdities of gender norms, it would appear that a lifelong exposure to societal and psychological conditioning definitely has an impact.
The evolving relationship between hair and gender identity underscores the need to move away from fixed notions of gender. As we strive for a more inclusive society, it's crucial to recognise that gender exists on a spectrum, encompassing a myriad of identities beyond the traditional male-female binary. By embracing fluidity in gender expression, we create space for individuals to authentically express themselves without fear of judgement or discrimination.
As therapists, it's imperative that we create a safe and inclusive space for individuals to explore their gender identity. My own experience is a good reminder that gender is not simply a matter of biology or socialisation but rather a complex interplay of various factors. Each person's experience of gender is unique, and acknowledging this diversity is crucial in providing effective support and guidance.
As we continue to learn and grow, let's commit to fostering a culture of acceptance and celebration of gender diversity. Let's challenge outdated norms and embrace the beautiful mosaic of gender identity that enriches our world. Together, we can create a more inclusive and compassionate society where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued for who they truly are.
Just like in Lady Gaga's powerful anthem of self-expression and liberation. Gaga encourages listeners to embrace their individuality and celebrate their unique identities. The song's message of self-acceptance and defiance against societal norms resonates deeply. 'Hair' is not just a song; it's a declaration of freedom and a reminder to be unapologetically yourself.
“I just wanna be free,
I just wanna be me
Don’t wanna change,
and I don’t wanna be ashamed
I’m the spirit of my hair
It’s all the glory that I bare
I’m my hair, I am my hair
I’m my hair, I am my hair
I am my hair, I am my hair”